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Vulnerability as a Tool for Growth

Many of us spent a significant amount of time building up walls around our inner-self. We often fall into the traps of defining ourselves by our substance use. Vulnerability seems frightening because it means tearing down those walls and allowing another person to get a glimpse of who we truly are without substances.

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous explains, “More than most people, the alcoholic leads a double-life. He is very much the actor. To the outer world he presents his stage character. This is the one he likes his fellows to see. He wants to enjoy a certain reputation, but knows in his heart he doesn’t deserve it.” This contradiction between who we truly are and who we choose to present to the outside world creates an inner conflict that exacerbates our addictive behaviors. We play a character so much that we begin to identify with it, feeling out of touch with our true self and seemingly incapable of being vulnerable with another person. However, when we begin to break down the walls that we have put up to protect ourselves from vulnerability, we begin to see the potential for growth in recovery.

Michael Singer, in “The Untethered Soul”, explains that these walls we build for ourselves are not protecting us, but rather isolating us from the ability to spiritually grow: “Of what purpose is it to build walls that block the light and then strive for enlightenment? You can get out simply by letting everyday life take down the walls you hold around yourself. You simply don’t participate in supporting, maintaining, and defending your fortress.” Allowing our walls to dissolve and getting vulnerable may be discomforting initially. However, our tendency to close ourselves off from others as a means of protection may temporarily provide a sense of security, but we can only begin to make positive changes to ourselves when we decide to get vulnerable, get uncomfortable, and bravely face who we truly are. Serenity, happiness, and sobriety are waiting for us on the other side of our walls, but first we have to allow ourselves to be put in a place of vulnerability so we may begin to grow.

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