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Thickening Your Skin

It may seem counterintuitive, but addicts and alcoholics are a sensitive bunch. We often take what people say to heart, and we’ve been known to drink or use “at” people, when really, we were the ones we were really hurting. Being sensitive isn’t a negative attribute, but being overly sensitive can steer us in the wrong direction. If your feelings are always like an open nerve, you may overreact to situations, dwell on the past or stress about the future, and you will eventually exhaust yourself. All of which do nothing good for your recovery.

If you’ve ever noticed highly successful people in your life or even public figures, they seem to have an air of firm resolve. The reason being, is that with success comes criticism. The more successful a person becomes, the more criticism she deals with, and hence, the thicker her skin becomes. It is so important to have broad shoulders—especially in recovery. If you are pushed over your emotional edge, the likelihood of you picking up a drink or drug is heightened. Don’t take people, including yourself, so seriously. Ask yourself why you care so much when someone has hurt your feelings. When someone behaves poorly, it’s about them, not you.

When you find yourself worrying about what others think of you, remind yourself that you’ve walked through fire and survived. Who cares what someone else thinks? No matter what anyone thinks of you, it’s none of your business. Practice letting what others say, go. Like water off a duck’s back, you do not need to react. One way you can do this is to ask people what they think. They’ll give you feedback, and the more feedback you receive, the more desensitized you will become. This works well in professional relationships and can also help you cope with personal relationships in a more rational manner—so long as you respond rather than react.

If you are being kind to others and keeping your emotions in check, life and recovery will be easier. Your own approval is what really matters, and as your self-esteem builds, you will place less value in others’ opinions and more in your own. Trust the process and trust that recovery will keep getting better.

Are you or a loved one struggling with addiction? Call The Resillient House and begin the healing process today. If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, we can help. We are available 24/7, toll-free at 833-242-6431. You can be free from addiction. Recovery is possible, call now.