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Show, Don’t Tell, That You Have Changed

As we progress in our recovery, all sorts of wonderful things happen to us. We undergo a major change in how we react to life, allowing us to live by spiritual principles and in a state of happiness, joyousness, and freedom in our sobriety. The selfishness and self-centeredness that once dominated our lives falls from us and we live altruistically and with a strong emphasis on helping others and being of service wherever and whenever we can. However, not everyone will trust that we have taken on a new life in sobriety. Nothing we tell them will change their minds, so it is up to us to show them we have changed through our actions.

Dishonesty and deception were often rampant during our time in active addiction. We did everything we could to cover up that we had a problem, and may have lied, cheated, and stolen to support our habit. When someone from our past is skeptical that we have made a profound change, we must be understanding. After all, our past actions have justified their skepticism. We may go to them in an effort to convince them that we have taken on a new life of honesty, selflessness, and sobriety, only to become upset when they do not believe us. In this case, we continue living a life of spiritual principles so that they can see that we are sincere.

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous explains, “A remorseful mumbling that we are sorry won’t fit the bill at all,” and, “The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it. Unless one’s family expresses a desire to live upon spiritual principles we think we ought not to urge them. We should not talk incessantly to them about spiritual matters. They will change in time. Our behavior will convince them more than our words. We must remember that ten or twenty years of drunkenness would make a skeptic out of anyone.” We can’t blame them for being skeptical of our new life. After all, going from being in active addiction to living a sober, spiritual life is an unbelievable change. They will see the change for themselves through our actions.

Your life doesn’t have to be held back by the chains of addiction. You can make the decision to seek help today and begin building a brighter future. Resilient House, located in beautiful Shreveport, Louisiana, brings together the highest quality behavioral health and addictions specialists, holistic experts, and spiritual guides to help clients develop all the tools necessary to achieve and maintain sobriety. For information about treatment options, please call today: (833) 242-6431