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How to Building Boundaries: 7 Ways to Draw the Line in the Sand?

Addiction is notorious for tearing down and stomping on the boundaries of anyone who has been affected by the disease. Boundaries are key to healthy relationships, and so it is no surprise that many of us in recovery came here with a history of dysfunction. Setting up boundaries and sticking to them is a skill that we have to learn, and below are some tips to begin building better relationships:

  1. Know Your Limits – Know where you stand physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Think about what you can tolerate and what you can’t and set those limits.
  2. Know Your Feelings – Discomfort and resentment are the biggest red flags of crossed boundaries. If you have these feelings, ask yourself what is it about an interaction that is causing you to feel this way, and take appropriate action.
  3. Be Direct – Some relationships are easier to practice communication, than others. If it is a romantic relationship or if someone communicates differently, you may have to be more direct about your boundaries, wants, and desires.
  4. Remember that Boundaries Are Healthy – If you feel guilty about saying no to someone, or you fear their response, remember that having boundaries is about having self-respect. If they ever begin slipping, ask yourself why, and do what you need to do.
  5. Be Assertive – Follow through on the boundaries you set. Addiction does a number on our self-esteem, and by doing what’s right for you, you are working to build yourself and your confidence.
  6. Begin Small – If you aren’t used to setting boundaries, start small and with something simple and non-threatening to you. As you practice doing so, you can add in more challenging boundaries as you go. Over time, you will become a pro at knowing where you stand and what you will and will not tolerate.
  7. Put Yourself First – Self-care is important in recovery, setting boundaries is no different. You and your recovery come first, so give yourself permission to do whatever it is you need to do. If you need some alone time, take it. If you need to voice your concerns about a relationship, do that, too. Keep yourself healthy and your recovery safe.

No matter how far down the scale you have gone, recovery is possible. You can make the decision to embark upon the rewarding journey of recovery by seeking help now. Resilient House, located in beautiful Shreveport, Louisiana, is staffed with knowledgeable and compassionate professionals dedicated to helping clients build happy, fulfilling lives in sobriety, free from the chains of addiction. For information about treatment options, please call today: (833) 242-6431