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Ending Each Day in Sobriety

Before we end our day, it is important that we take time for self-reflection. In sobriety, we take it “one day at a time,” ending each day with a constructive analysis of our behaviors, thoughts, and actions from the previous 24 hours. By doing so, we are able to reflect on any changes we need to make to ensure that we are engaging in our recovery program to the best of our ability.

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous suggests several questions to ask ourselves each night: “Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest, or afraid? Do we owe an apology? Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with another person at once? Were we kind and loving toward all? What could we have done better? Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? Or were we thinking of what we could do for others, of what we could pack into the stream of life?” Honestly answering these questions and seeing where we may have stumbled allows us to make strategies to improve ourselves in the coming day.

Realizing that we may have fallen short of our ideals can be difficult. The Big Book suggests that we be careful not to “drift into worry, remorse, or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness to others.” Yet, seeing where we stumbled can be a necessary catalyst for self-improvement. Dr. Allen R. McConnell, in a 2010 Psychology Today article entitled Reflection Critical for Self-Improvement, explains, “Research in the psychological literature suggests that the negativity elicited from our awareness of a discrepancy between our current state and our goal is critical to spur self-improvement. That is, the pain that emanates from our confronting a transgression (e.g., the person who faces a chart on his fridge that confirms his only going to the gym once in the past week) is a version, and it is this negative feeling that motivates one to reduce the discrepancy.” We may find a discrepancy between how we wish to treat others and how we actually do treat others throughout our day. Becoming aware of the discrepancy allows us to form strategies to act in a manner of compassion, love, and tolerance in situations. With our nightly inventory, we are able to make plans to put our ideals into action, and continually improve ourselves each day.

Your life doesn’t have to be held back by the chains of addiction. You can make the decision to seek help today and begin building a brighter future. Resilient House, located in beautiful Shreveport, Louisiana, brings together the highest quality behavioral health and addictions specialists, holistic experts, and spiritual guides to help clients develop all the tools necessary to achieve and maintain sobriety. For information about treatment options, please call today: (833) 242-6431