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Breaking Down Emotional Walls

The more we live in a state of active addiction, the more we put up psychological walls around us. We build walls as a means of keeping others from getting a view of who we are at the core of our being. Our psychological walls keep us from having to face the truth of our problems and to keep others from seeing our vulnerabilities and fear. When we begin breaking down these walls, we put ourselves in a position much more conducive to healing and recovery. It allows us to develop the necessary honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness to effectively address our addiction.

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous describes this as playing the role of an actor: “To the outer world he presents his stage character. This is the one he likes his fellows to see. He wants to enjoy a certain reputation, but knows in his heart he doesn’t deserve it.” To compound the problem, we do all sorts of regrettable things during our time in active addiction. In response to the shame and humiliation of the things we do while under the influence of drugs, we bury our negative feelings with still more substance use. This creates a cycle of suffering that exacerbates addiction and drives us deeper and deeper into powerlessness and unmanageability over drugs and alcohol.

The conflict between our internal selves and the external push us deeper into emotional turmoil and we turn to drugs and alcohol as a means of self-medication. Eckhart Tolle, in Stillness Speaks, explains, “Whenever you are able, have a ‘look’ inside yourself to see whether you are unconsciously creating conflict between the inner and the outer, between your external circumstances at that moment—where you are, who you are with, or what you are doing—and your thoughts and feelings. Can you feel how painful it is to internally stand in opposition of what is?” The “inner state of war” that arises from this opposition can keep us from recognizing the need to reach out for help. We may know that our problem has gotten out of hand but are not willing to take off the mask or stop playing the character that we have been playing to save face. However, once we are able to get honest with ourselves, all sorts of remarkable things follow and we are in a much better position to receive the help we so desperately need.

Your life doesn’t have to be held back by the chains of addiction. You can make the decision to seek help today and begin building a brighter future. Resilient House, located in beautiful Shreveport, Louisiana, brings together the highest quality behavioral health and addictions specialists, holistic experts, and spiritual guides to help clients develop all the tools necessary to achieve and maintain sobriety. For information about treatment options, please call today: (833) 242-6431